Relationships - Are you too sexy to be faithful?

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I have counselled people with numerous addictions, ranging from substance abuse to gambling to pornography. One topic, by far, that seems to have drawn the most fire, over the years, is the subject of infidelity.

Please allow me to be candid.  I want you to know that I have been there. I was first married at the age of 18. Within 4 years, the marriage ended in divorce. Four years later, subsequent to the divorce, after numerous other indiscretions and a new dating relationship, I became a follower of Christ.

During this period, I was fortunate enough to plug into a great support system, which facilitated my marriage to my, then girlfriend, current wife. We have been together for 15 years and have seven beautiful children. By the grace of God, I have been fortunate enough to have never cheated on my wife. She was also supported my desire to raise my oldest son, from my previous marriage, as well.

Mushy time is over...........back to the subject at hand.

In retrospect, when I looked back on the error of my own ways, as well as those I have had the privilege of counselling, I have made a few observations that I will share, in closing, regarding the cheater, the cheatee, and the third party:

1. The cheatee (faithful one) is typically already aware of infidelity on the part of their significant other, due to a change in behavior. ( i.e. lack of attentiveness, arriving home late, sharp verbal responses, defensiveness, etc.)
2. The cheatee may also have found themselves in a similar situation before, where they have been cheated on.
3. The cheater, when in public or at work, is more often than not, telegraphing his intentions over a period of time to one or several potential "contestants". This 'telegraphing' can be, in most cases, non-verbal in nature, as this is the most common form of communication. Remember that words account for 7%, tone accounts for 38%, but body language accounts for 55% of communication.
4. The cheater may care about the person he is with, but has suffered from past hurts as well. These hurts may also have nothing to do with the person they are being unfaithful to; nevertheless, the pain is real. Consequently, hurt people hurt people.
5. The third party, if they have knowledge of the couple, may desire the magic that he/she sees between these two people. But, invariably, once he/she has 'stolen' the person, the interest in that person has all but disappeared. What they were seeking was the 'magic' that they saw; not realizing that the 'magic' was the result of what that 'couple' had. Once you remove the cheatee (faithful person) and insert the third party, the 'magic' is gone.
6. The third party is not evil. He/ she, like the cheater is simply a wounded person that is wounding others.

I will tell you, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that fidelity holds blessings that are unlocked only by those who pursue it.

Dr. Wick Daddy signing off..................former 'player' for Satan; current 'coach' for Christ.

God bless!



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