Relationships Series - Old Flames

Good morning to you!

This one will be quick.

It has happened to us all on Facebook, but it happened to me yesterday.

I received "that" friend request. Yes, I'm talkin' 'bout that one from the crush I had when I was in the 11th grade.
We were crazy about each other...........back in the day, of course. We never, however, entered into any type of relationship though, just phone contact. Naturally, that made the mental escapades even more vivid. Why, you ask? Well, it's quite simple. The less involved a person is, with a previous infatuation, the greater capacity one has to create a "perfect fantasy" in one's mind; because you don't have any 'horrrible endings' to draw from, only candy-coated imaginations. At any rate, we managed to keep in touch all the way up until 1994; two years, before my wife and I were wed. You know how the Facebook scenario goes. You see the little "people" icon highlighted, showing that you have a friend request. You click on it, and suddenly......"that" name appears. I was floored. At that moment, the Ghost of Crushes Past crept up, and began to take me on a psychological and emotional roller coaster. Every conversatinon, her perfume, every song, from the past replayed, simultaneously, in my handsome, egg-shaped cranium. I buckled for a moment and regrouped.

Isn't it amazing how the voices from your body and mind never take into account, the gravity of your current circumstance and commitments? You just fly away.......at least I did. for about 8 munutes.

But, fortunately, thanks to God and the great spiritual mentors that I have, I was able to pull, from my self help medicine bag, a secret weapon that hasn't failed me yet. 'Wanna know what it is? Relax alright!!! I'm gonna tell you........

It is a question...........and it is as follows:

"If I pursue what my body and mind are telling me to pursue, what will be the consequences?"

At this point, I am able to usher in images of my reality. My wife, eight children and all the memories we've created over the past 18 years begins to crystallize.............and Wick Daddy is back home safely from his short trip to Pleasure Island.

It is my sincere hope that you were able to grasp something my brief rendezvous with deja vu.

But now that I've gone back and absorbed everything in this blog entry, I have just one question for you.

Is it me, or did this stroll down memory lane seem longer than eight minutes to you too???????????

Wick is exiting the building.


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Forgiveness & Distance

This post is as much a declaration of my freedom from anger, hurt & disappointment as it is a tool that I'm hopeful will be able to equip every reader, should you ever encounter a similar event.

Daily Nugget - Feelings

When you have expressed your love, in every possible way;
And still found yourself rejected and led astray.

Daily Nugget: Keep it brand new.

Good day, to each of you.

This message goes out to all the lovely people who are in a committed relationship.

I want to want to lay this down as tenderly and frankly as possible.

It takes much less energy to reinvest in what you've built than to contemplate the excitement of yielding to the temptation that is attached to something new.

Here's why.

A person who is willing to pursue you, with the knowledge that you are in a relationship (whether it is troubled or perfect), clearly shows no respect for the boundaries of commitment.

Hence, once you finally leave the love you've built, for something new. you may find that the new person will, still, not respect the boundaries of commitment. Make sense?

In essence, the person who cheats with you (physically or emotionally) will, inevitably, cheat on you.

So if you are thinking about leaving, think again.

Hold up!!!!!!!

I'd also like to issue a disclaimer: if you are leaving your current relationship, due to infidelity or abuse, then I will express two points.

If this is your circumstance, you have obviously been hurt, either physically or emotionally and my heart goes out to you. Here are the two points.

1. What is needed most, at this stage, is good counsel from someone who knows you, loves you, won't stroke you and will also be real with you, about you.

2. You need to allow yourself a good l2 months to heal. (This time frame will allow you to wald through every season of your life, by yourself, so that you are assured that you have passed the rebouding stage.)

I know that, personally, during cloudy times, I invest my energy in making what I've built with my wife, brand new.

I do it, not necessarily, because I always feel like doing it; but for two other reasons.

1. At the age of 42, I don't have the time to train somebody on what my likes and dislikes are. For the record, everybody is a mess, to some degree. But this is my mess. I use the term mess, for the sake of humor. Those who know my wife and I know that we are super happy, because we choose to be super happy. (Well, we were super happy at least eight times, because we are raising eight children.)

2. My wife is gorgeous and if I saw her, walking around, on someone's else's arm, I might have to................... well, you know.

Well family, that's all I have for now and I sincerely hope that this post has blessed you.

Happy New Year.

Let's do it big in 2013!

Oh, one more thing.

Can you like my Facebook page? (click here)

Good bye, for real this time.

Daily Nugget - Are you feelin' it?

If you have breathed oxygen on this planet for any length of time, there will be one revelation that will, eventually, become crystal clear to you:

Your feelings may overflow much less than they do, at other moments in your relationship.

This is normal.

But at about the same time that the 'gushiness' wears off, the commitment should kick in.

This is when we, as my mentor taught me, must act our way into the feeling, instead of waiting to feel our way into an action. Because, honestly, we may never get to the place of 'feeling' like loving that person.

In a nutshell, we must love the unlovable and know that it only takes one moment to shift us, from needing to show compassion to needing to receive it.

Continue to keep it 100 party people.

Dr.W.D.

Daily Nugget - The Body Talk Series

Have you ever noticed when visiting your local grocery story, that there is typically someone stationed there, to give out free samples?

Daily Nugget # 298: Package Deal.

Party people,

It is with great joy that I begin my discourse with you tonight. It is regarding a subject that is near and dear to my heart. It is the subject of dating. In particular, we'll be addressing single ladies with children that are a part of the "dating scene".

Daliy Nugget #286 - The Ugly Duckling.

Good morning, party people. Today's Daily Nugget may be one that we all can relate to. For those of can, this post will serve as a source of great encouragement and instruction. I will now begin.

Real Men Series - Part 1

A real man will declare his love for a woman in public,

Lock and Key

Good morning friend.

I am writing to you at this hour, after much inner turmoil, regarding the nature of this topic. It has been some time, since our last post, here at TDWDS! Furthermore, I don't want this to turn into a five paragraph intro, so let's just dive in, shall we?

Relationships - The Workplace.

Happy April Fools to you!

I have chosen this day to share this relationship nugget for a very specific reason, that I will delve into, momentarily.

Relationships - Are you on display............or hidden?

Ladies, this part is dedicated to you.

Relationships - Are you too sexy to be faithful?

Are you buckled up? Cool. Here we go.

Relationships - Who is your mentor?

Charlie Sheen, Bill Clinton, Kobe Bryant, Wilt Chamberlain.

These names are certainly ones of notoriety and popularity. However, these personalities have also morrphed into caricatures of the shortcomings in our own lives. In my estimation, it is apparent that the aforementioned parties, may have overlooked the importance of selecting a mentor, in the area of interpersonal relationship skills. Although these individuals, have amassed significant wealth, their personal outcomes may have been, shall we say, less than desirable.