Greetings Party People!
Yes, it is that time again. First, I want you to know that I count it a privilege to share this time with you. I do not take your time, nor your comments for granted. I am finding myself, becoming more of a student, than a teacher, as I am sharing here with you on "The Dr. Wick Daddy Show!" It is truly an honor.
I was inspired to write this piece by a dear friend of mine, who was kind enough to share an experience that she had at a recent company outing. She observed a strange phenomenon that I beleve we are all, quite too familiar with.
As she entered the company event, she began to notice that her greetings, smiles and extended salutations were met with lowered eyes, high glances (looking above the eyes of a person that is greeting you.) or blatant redirected walking paths. Essentially, it appeared that people that she shared the workplace with, for over 40 plus hours a week, were avoiding interracting with her.
I can sense the inner warmth that you are feeling now. You have been down this road a time or two yourself, haven't you? This behavior is so common that we have grown accustomed to excusing it and simply adjusting our own behaviors to accomodate those that possess this genetic defect. Well, although quite common, this behavior is still quite rude.
On "The Dr. Wick Daddy Show!", the unwritten rule is as follows: "We cannot chang the conduct of others. We can only focus on improving ourselves." Consequently, I would like to, with the remainder of this blog entry, target some habits that we can develop to deter this type of behavior, on a personal level. Secondarily, we will also look at some tactics we can employ to avoid offense, when dealing with victims of the cancerous workplace ailment, known as CCS (Co-Worker Co-Dependency Syndrome).
Personal Preventive Steps (to prevent you from ignoring others)
1. When entering a social setting, understand that the onus is upon you to initiate the greeting. So don't wait for someone to greet you when you enter a room. Please greet them first.
2. If you recognize someone, but can't remember their name, politely smile and wave. This will allow you to appear hospitable, instead of absent minded.
3. If someone gives you a sneer, (typically ladies do this, not guys), then execute Step 3: smile and wave. This will reduce the hostility level and may create an opportunity for the person to approach you later and apologize for the gossiping they've been doing behind your back.
CCS Preventative Steps (to avoid being offending by those who ignore you.)
1. Realize that we, as human beings, are always in the process of overcoming social obstacles. Some of your peers may not even associate with people of other cultures or backgrounds, outside of the work environment. Consequently, they are much more likely to embrace stereotypes about other groups of people or even be uncomfortable around them in social settings, where they have no choice in the matter. Be polite, do not repay impoliteness on their part, with anger, on your part. Your compassion will help them outgrow their negative thinking and potentially, improve your work relationship with that individual, which is a good thing, especially if the person is a superior.
2. Understand also that people may ignore you, for no other reason than their own insecurities. Again, a compassionate smile or gesture will allow you to take the high road and eventually, disarm the insecure person. Whether it does or not, our goal is act like the big kid, not the little kid.
3. There are those who may be climbing the corporate ladder and may consider you to be an obstacle in their path. This one is very important and has a simple solution. The best indicator, in this scenario, would be, moreso, based on your workplace interractions with this individual. This will take a bit of discernment, but if you feel it applies, then you may greet this person with a handshake, and wrap the handshake with your scond hand, lean in and state the following: "Hi.......good to see you. Listen, next week, I believe we'll be very busy. If there's anything I can do to assist you, don't hesitate to ask." This one is 24 karat gold.
Well, I must go now. The Coco Puffs monster is calling me. Love you Wick Daddy fam and remember to keep it 100(% real)..........24/7/365. Deuce.
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